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What pronouns should I use?

Pronouns are similar to names in that they are used to distinguish between different people. We, as a culture, tend to make an assumption about a person’s gender pronouns based on how we interpret their gender. This assumption should never be made as it is possible for us to misinterpret a person’s gender expression and make a false assumption.

It is generally acceptable to politely and respectfully ask about a person’s pronouns. Many people choose to go by pronouns besides she/her and he/him such as they/them, ze/hir, co/cos, and many more. Just as you will never know a stranger’s name without asking, you will never know a person’s pronouns without asking.

Guide to respecting trans people:
Behaviors to Avoid
-  Assumptions: You should not to assume anything about a person who may be trans. This includes assumptions about one's identity, pronoun preference, transition status/plans, age, or sexual orientation.
- Interrogating: not every trans person is an expert on trans issues. Even if they are, they are not obligated to educate people on trans stuff 24/7
- Venting about your issues with transness: Don't use a trans person to work out your discomfort around trans issues.
- Commenting on a trans person's appearance: Especially regarding if they "pass" or not. Not all trans people want to pass, and commenting on it reinforces gender stereotypes and hierarchies.

Behaviors that are helpful:
- Respect:
you should respect a person's pronoun choice, identity, privacy, and names. Don't ask invasive or personal questions of a trans person you've just met. 
-Be Honest: Be upfront about your level of understand of trans things. Share your willingess (or unwillingness) to be an ally.
- Educate yourself and others.
-Interrupt bad gender situations: This takes a lot of confidence and discernment. It's great to stand up for trans people whenever you can.

Pronoun Tips
- It's always okay to ask what pronoun someone prefers, but do it in private and respectfully. Asking in front of a large group can be nerve wracking and might put the person in an uncomfortable situation
-Stating your own pronouns when introducing yourself encourages others to do the same. 
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More Reading: Difficult Questions

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